Choosing the right person to lead your ceremony is a big decision. Your officiant sets the tone for your wedding day, so it's important to ask the right questions early. Therefore, here are six essential questions to ask a wedding officiant to make sure they fit your vision perfectly. 1. How Do You Personalize the Wedding Ceremony? A skilled wedding officiant will take time to learn about you as a couple. Ask how they personalize the ceremony to reflect your unique love story and traditions. For example, I customize every ceremony to highlight what makes each couple special. 2.